Once the blindfold is (or the blindfolds are) in place, the couple should lie side by side and slowly explore one another’s naked body. They should start by touching nonerogenous zones—forearms, elbows, calves, knees, the top of the head. Next they should caress the erogenous zones, but without dwelling on them—the inner thighs, the inner arms, the ears, the back of the neck, the nipples, the lips, the penis, the vagina. Finally, they should make love. No words should be spoken during the game, but the couple are encouraged to make mental notes of their thoughts in order to talk about them later.
The blindfold acts as an artificial barrier, filtering out the visual effects and the negative judgments that inhibit sexual desire. It also serves as an aid to regression: Being blindfolded brings about a feeling of powerlessness and submissiveness associated with childhood, and likewise arouses the primitive erotic feelings known in childhood. Youthful passion, as we all know, is stronger than adult passion mainly because it has not undergone the “thousand and one shocks that the flesh is heir to” (as Shakespeare put it). The game is designed to help participants rediscover both play and the intense feelings of lust they have been inhibiting (and perhaps been afraid of).
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