When one speaks of erogenous zones one often thinks only of the organs capable of producing an orgasm. We shall look at these later on.
But there are many other zones around the human body which produce agreeable sensations when stimulated. It is important to think of them when it comes to the preliminary petting or foreplay that arouses and increases desire and prepares two lovers for the more specific actions that lead to orgasm.
Orgasm is one thing, love is another. More precisely, love is a whole that encompasses feelings, affection and tenderness. A man who visits a prostitute gets his orgasm, and no more. He gets relief, but most of all he feels disappointment, not because of the price he had to pay but because it was, for both parties, an act committed without love, without preparation.
Every couple in love likes to show that love through kissing and caressing; these are an indispensable lead-up to the more intense pleasure that follows once they reach the stage of intercourse and then orgasm.
Women especially are sensitive to the caresses bestowed by her lover’s hands, mouth and tongue – and even his teeth.
The longer the arousal of these erogenous zones is made to last, the more intense the orgasm that follows will be. The woman’s preliminary caresses will often give the man a more complete erection and one that lasts longer. Paradoxically, they will help prevent the premature ejaculation that bedevils the love lives of so many couples. Prolonged handling of the penis, especially in a young men at the start of his sexual experience, invariably leads to premature ejaculation, sometimes even before the penis is fully erect. But kissing and caressing on other parts of his body will help him control his ejaculation reflex and hold it back longer.
The two most important erogenous zones are the mouth and the breasts.
The kiss is the first expression of sexual desire when a couple is formed. Although an easy matter on the face of it, the kiss deserves particular attention. Concentrate on what you do when you kiss. Have you pushed your lips far enough forward? Are they completely closed? Does your tongue go far enough, or too far, into your partner’s mouth? Like all bodily contact, the kiss implies a certain perfectionism and requires observation of your partner’s reactions. Not all men and women like to be kissed in the same way. Learn to find out what your partner likes!
The breasts are a very specially erogenous zone. They are the main source of arousal for men. They lend themselves to all kinds of caresses. They can be kneaded, lightly stroked, caressed a thousand different ways. The nipples contract and harden when stroked. Teeth can nibble them, a mouth can suckle them gently, a tongue can run around the areola or excite it with quick little flicks. All variations are allowed in this game, which gives as much delight to the man as to the woman.
Many women attach too much importance to the size and shape of their breasts, but variety, after all, is the spice of life. Be happy with your breasts the way they are and you will be sure to find a man who likes breasts just like that. Certain men are even attracted to positively overdeveloped breasts!
Men’s nipples too are erogenous zones, though women too rarely think of stimulating them. If you feel like sucking or nibbling them, go ahead – but gently! Nibble too hard and you will cause pain rather than pleasure.
The buttocks are a major erogenous zone, and they lend themselves to kneading and stroking as much as the breasts. The area where the two buttocks start to divide is especially sensitive to light, prolonged touching.
Other erogenous zones are the ear lobe, which gives agreeable sensations when nibbled, the neck – a good area for kissing, licking and sucking lightly – the shoulders, the navel, the inside of the thigh. And another point of interest is the big toe: while it does not give any particular sensation itself when sucked, it does arouse erotic interest because of the similarity of this act with the sucking of the penis (which we shall talk about later).
Individuals vary in the sensitivity of their different erogenous zones. Learn to explore which arouse your partner, and perfect the caresses that give him/her most pleasure.
The anus is also an important erogenous zone; but we shall deal with this along with the zones that are sexual in the fullest sense, since it is just beside them and is also sometimes used for intercourse, by homosexuals and heterosexuals alike.
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